Since I was really young I was always fascinated to watch how different people are. I always found interesting to compare the way they carry themselves during the events that mark their life.
So in a hot day of August and right before I was about to play with my sheep, I decided to write down two different ways I had learned to profile people.
Before you start to read, keep in mind that these models are very approximate and carry a big deal of criticism with them but they are still widely used by different organisms and institutions in order to categorize different personality traits.
Some of those models helped me in different phases of my life to take critical decisions and to amplify relationships. They are based at the principle that individuals find certain ways of thinking and acting EASIER than others. But bear in thought that people can change through the years. Also these are mere preferences so IN NO CASE you should put a tag on someone and think that he will behave always according to that model.
People have always several aces hidden up their sleeves – or elsewhere.
Having said that, my lovely and very smart reader, we can continue on with the BEAUTIFUL and SIMPLE details.
NLP – 3 preferential sensory systems
In 1970 Richard Bandler and John Grinder founders of Neuro Linguistic Programming, noticed that they can categorize people according to how they filtered the world through their senses.
So let’s say that one happy day, you take a group of people and bring them on a sunny and windy balcony overlooking a beautiful bay.
- 55% of those people will be stunned by the beauty of the blue ocean while the sun is setting over the horizon (VISUALS)
- 15% of them will love to hear the wind blowing and they will GET all ECSTATIC by the sound of the waves breaking on the shore (AUDITORIES)
- 30% of them will love the feeling of the wind around them while the warmth of the sun will make them FEEL GOOD (KINESTHETICS)
- 83% of them will NOT be able to afford the price tag of that house balcony (NO MONEY type of persons)
No one has 100% one type of sensory preference but most of us have one sensory system which is much more dominant than the rest.
ow, Visuals are usually a bit more logical and tend to speak fast with a high pitched noise while they breath high. They are usually not as good as auditory people into bringing their ideas into words. When they finally do, they prefer to use verbs and words of vision like: ‘It looks good to me’ or even better the all time dumb ‘I SEE what you are saying’.
Auditories respond emotionally to the quality of the sound. They use verbs and words related to sound. They speak melodically and enjoy speaking. Now I know why I had a girlfriend that was so annoyed by loud noises, while at other moments she INSISTED on me talking to her while we were having sex.
Kinesthetics are persons of emotions and feelings. They understand the world through emotions and express them selves like that. They will tell you how GOOD they felt when they met their friend and you listen to them saying how they LIKE or don’t like someone. They are the main users of expressions like: ‘Do you GET what I’m saying?’. Among them you are going to find super-fits and sensitive, big hearted persons. They will touch you during the conversation because it is the ONLY way for them to perceive that they actually talked to you.
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator – 16 types of personalities
Myers-Briggs type indicator is a personality questionnaire that helps identify certain psychological differences based on the work of Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung.
Here you look at 4 different characteristics of that person, like 4 switches. Those four switches give us 16 different combinations of personalities that walk on this planet. I am one of them during the morning, another during the night and when I am drunk I am ALL 16 of them TOGETHER.
The accuracy can be disputed but here we go….
Sensing VS Intuition
Sensing prefer to trust information that is concrete and it is in the present: information is understood by the five senses. They may prefer to look for facts. For them, they find the meaning in the data.
iNtuition will trust information that is more abstract or theoretical, that can be associated with other information (remembered or they may look for a wider context or pattern). They may be more interested in future possibilities. The meaning is in how the data relates to the pattern or theory.
Thinking VS Feeling
Feeling will prefer to take decisions by empathizing with the situation, striving to find the best harmony with THEIR set of values.
Thinking will prefer to take decisions based on a more calculated, cold and more detached point of view based on ‘logic’.
Introversion VS Extroversion
Extroverted people get energy from action. They need to act in order to feel energetic.
Introverted people loose energy as they act. They need to think in order to gain energy.
Judging VS Perceiving
Judging like to think by decisions and enjoy getting things done way ahead from deadlines. When they start doing something with a certain way it will be difficult for them to change it.
Perceiving prefer to leave matters open and they will try to finish things close to deadline to see how things will form in the end. They may be impulsive near the end and they may seem too flexible in the eyes of their friends Judging.
Those 4 types give 16 combination have a coded name. Here are two examples:
- 14% of the USA population are ISFJ = Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging
- 13% of the USA population are ESFJ = Extroverted Sensing Feeling Judging
Being able to correctly profile people takes years of studying and experiencing real world situations that help to differentiate certain situations. It takes practice and time to gain the right credentials, like a criminology masters program, in order to better position yourself.
That’s all folks for the moment